<?xml version='1.0' encoding='UTF-8'?><?xml-stylesheet href="http://www.blogger.com/styles/atom.css" type="text/css"?><feed xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom' xmlns:openSearch='http://a9.com/-/spec/opensearchrss/1.0/' xmlns:georss='http://www.georss.org/georss' xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4671943391293315270</id><updated>2011-11-27T15:52:30.526-08:00</updated><category term='self esteem'/><category term='relationship ends'/><category term='self confidence'/><category term='nlp'/><category term='being rejected and low self esteem'/><category term='self help'/><category term='how to overcome low self esteem after a breakup'/><category term='breakup'/><category term='low self esteem'/><category term='hurtful words and low self esteem'/><category term='low self esteem and loneliness'/><category term='divorce'/><title type='text'>Low Self Esteem, Loneliness And Being Rejected</title><subtitle type='html'></subtitle><link rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#feed' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://lowselfesteemloneliness.blogspot.com/feeds/posts/default'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4671943391293315270/posts/default?max-results=100'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://lowselfesteemloneliness.blogspot.com/'/><link rel='hub' href='http://pubsubhubbub.appspot.com/'/><author><name>Pat</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/14049663657833245371</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><generator version='7.00' uri='http://www.blogger.com'>Blogger</generator><openSearch:totalResults>4</openSearch:totalResults><openSearch:startIndex>1</openSearch:startIndex><openSearch:itemsPerPage>100</openSearch:itemsPerPage><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4671943391293315270.post-5574151856870714476</id><published>2009-06-30T11:05:00.000-07:00</published><updated>2009-10-29T11:47:49.294-07:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='divorce'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='being rejected and low self esteem'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='breakup'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='relationship ends'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='how to overcome low self esteem after a breakup'/><title type='text'>How To Overcome Low Self Esteem After A Breakup or Separation</title><content type='html'>&lt;a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_UziHFXQHoYE/SkpaM7FX9MI/AAAAAAAAAC4/4KLjJJxHV0U/s1600-h/selfesteemseparation.jpg"&gt;&lt;img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 199px; height: 300px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_UziHFXQHoYE/SkpaM7FX9MI/AAAAAAAAAC4/4KLjJJxHV0U/s320/selfesteemseparation.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5353190285148419266" border="0" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Have you been struggling with &lt;a style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;" href="http://www.adviceforlove.com/2009/06/how-to-overcome-low-self-esteem-after-a-separation/"&gt;how to overcome low self esteem after a separation&lt;/a&gt; or breakup?  When a relationship ends,  no matter who is to blame, it can cause feelings of failure, sadness, and rejection.  These feelings damage our self confidence and cause low self esteem.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Self esteem is defined as our own personal view and perception of ourselves. When the vision we have of ourselves is lowered through perceived failure, disappointment and lack of support, the result is low self esteem and self worth.   It is quite common after a separation to have these feelings of doubt about yourself.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Once low self esteem is established, it can affect all aspects of your daily life. The one that is affected the most is your relationships with other people.  You have to be careful not to isolate yourself from others.   When you have low self esteem you tend to avoid social situations and then loneliness can become a problem.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The first step to improving your self esteem is to control the way you talk to yourself. Negative self talk and thoughts are the primary cause for continued low self esteem.  Tips for how to overcome low self esteem after a separation can be found below:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;First and foremost - Always be kind to yourself, don't put yourself down to others or to yourself. Talk to yourself just as you would talk to your best friend.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Surround yourself with as many positive people as you can and avoid negative people.  It is  important to be around friends and family who will support you and lift you up.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Don't stop participating in activities that you enjoy. Many times low self esteem will stop you from doing the things you love to do. When you get involved in your favorite activities again, it will help boost your &lt;a style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;" href="http://lowselfesteemloneliness.blogspot.com/2009/06/help-for-low-self-esteem-and-loneliness.html"&gt;low self esteem and curb your loneliness&lt;/a&gt;&lt;span style="font-style: italic;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt;after the separation.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The best solution for how to &lt;a href="http://hubpages.com/hub/Overcoming-Low-Self-Esteem-Building-Self-Confidence"&gt;overcome low self esteem&lt;/a&gt; after a separation is to start taking corrective action as soon as possible. You have to change the way your mind perceives yourself.  Your low self esteem can be turned around and the loneliness you feel after your separation will also go away.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;If you are ready to banish your low self esteem forever, I highly recommend you visit &lt;a style="font-weight: bold;" href="http://www.solutionsforlowselfesteem.com/"&gt;Solutions For Low Self Esteem&lt;/a&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt;for a life changing method on how to overcome low self esteem after a separation.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4671943391293315270-5574151856870714476?l=lowselfesteemloneliness.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://lowselfesteemloneliness.blogspot.com/feeds/5574151856870714476/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://lowselfesteemloneliness.blogspot.com/2009/06/how-to-overcome-low-self-esteem-after.html#comment-form' title='1 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4671943391293315270/posts/default/5574151856870714476'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4671943391293315270/posts/default/5574151856870714476'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://lowselfesteemloneliness.blogspot.com/2009/06/how-to-overcome-low-self-esteem-after.html' title='How To Overcome Low Self Esteem After A Breakup or Separation'/><author><name>Pat</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/14049663657833245371</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_UziHFXQHoYE/SkpaM7FX9MI/AAAAAAAAAC4/4KLjJJxHV0U/s72-c/selfesteemseparation.jpg' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>1</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4671943391293315270.post-593255537394306840</id><published>2009-06-19T11:40:00.000-07:00</published><updated>2009-06-30T08:27:48.709-07:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='nlp'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='low self esteem'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='self esteem'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='self help'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='hurtful words and low self esteem'/><title type='text'>How Hurtful Words Can Cause Low Self Esteem</title><content type='html'>&lt;a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_UziHFXQHoYE/SkJqsFI-_kI/AAAAAAAAABo/kW3GnYI1b5g/s1600-h/negativity.jpg"&gt;&lt;img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 300px; height: 200px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_UziHFXQHoYE/SkJqsFI-_kI/AAAAAAAAABo/kW3GnYI1b5g/s320/negativity.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5350956612796218946" border="0" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.squidoo.com/hurtfulwordsandlowselfesteem"&gt;&lt;b&gt;Hurtful words can cause low self esteem&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;/b&gt; and life long damage, especially to children.   Words are very powerful weapons and can be devastating when used in the wrong way. People do not realize that their words can have an affect not only on them, but on the people they are directed to.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;If hurtful words are said often enough, they can destroy self confidence and lower self esteem.  When the subconscious mind believes these hurtful words to be true, this can cause low self esteem.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;You must forgive the person who so thoughtlessly said these hurtful words to you, and begin to deal with your low self esteem.  Don’t let it go too long.  You must begin to work on repairing your low self esteem immediately.  Do not let this fester; the longer you go without addressing the problem, the worse it will get.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The only way you can raise your low self esteem caused by someone’s hurtful words,  is to change the negative thoughts you have about yourself to positive thoughts.  You must stop the negative self talk and replace it with positive affirmations.  This negative self talk is damaging your self confidence and self esteem.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Visit &lt;a href="http://www.solutionsforlowselfesteem.com/"&gt;&lt;b&gt;Solutions For Low Self Esteem&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/a&gt; for more information on how you can successfully banish your low self esteem forever.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4671943391293315270-593255537394306840?l=lowselfesteemloneliness.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://lowselfesteemloneliness.blogspot.com/feeds/593255537394306840/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://lowselfesteemloneliness.blogspot.com/2009/06/how-hurtful-words-can-cause-low-self.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4671943391293315270/posts/default/593255537394306840'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4671943391293315270/posts/default/593255537394306840'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://lowselfesteemloneliness.blogspot.com/2009/06/how-hurtful-words-can-cause-low-self.html' title='How Hurtful Words Can Cause Low Self Esteem'/><author><name>Pat</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/14049663657833245371</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_UziHFXQHoYE/SkJqsFI-_kI/AAAAAAAAABo/kW3GnYI1b5g/s72-c/negativity.jpg' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4671943391293315270.post-4007961308888254280</id><published>2009-06-19T11:07:00.000-07:00</published><updated>2009-07-28T10:16:26.065-07:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='self confidence'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='low self esteem and loneliness'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='self help'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='hurtful words and low self esteem'/><title type='text'>Help For Low Self Esteem And Loneliness</title><content type='html'>&lt;a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_UziHFXQHoYE/SkJq2PAbtHI/AAAAAAAAABw/YwJUeK3aqK8/s1600-h/overcomenegativity.jpg"&gt;&lt;img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 300px; height: 217px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_UziHFXQHoYE/SkJq2PAbtHI/AAAAAAAAABw/YwJUeK3aqK8/s320/overcomenegativity.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5350956787243398258" border="0" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The world is in the middle of a loneliness crisis and it is ruining our health and causing us to have low self esteem.  People don’t even realize that they are lonely.  The problem is too often categorized as low self esteem, when it actually is loneliness which is causing the low self esteem.  Over the years, there has been a drastic decline in the number of people that are involved in church groups, political groups and other community organizations.  The majority of us don’t even socialize with our neighbors anymore.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Everyone is so busy in this fast paced world that we live in, that we don’t take time to create new relationships.  It has been proven that loneliness has many health consequences and some of them are quite serious.  People are healthier and recover from sickness faster when they have a close circle of family and friends.  They are also more self confident and have higher self esteem due to the support and encouragement that can only come from close relationships with other people.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;No matter how busy your life is, it is very important that you take the time to make room for others.  Even if you are married, you still need other friends.  You can’t expect one relationship to meet all of your emotional requirements.  When married couples only have each other as friends, you can be sure that &lt;a href="http://www.squidoo.com/LowSelfEsteemAndLoneliness"&gt;&lt;b&gt;loneliness and low self esteem&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/a&gt; will soon creep in.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;To find friends who will be the most compatible, try joining clubs or groups that focus on the  interests that you have.  Strengthening your bond with your family is also very important.  The more people you allow into your life, the better it is for your health, well being and self esteem.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;It’s not always easy to come out of your comfort zone and meet new people.  Sometimes you must build your self confidence and self esteem up in order to have the courage to get out and try something different.  You don't have to &lt;a style="font-weight: bold;" href="http://hubpages.com/hub/Coping-With-Loneliness"&gt;cope with loneliness&lt;/a&gt;.  Your low self esteem and loneliness will never go away unless you try it.  Today is a good day to start.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Visit &lt;a href="http://www.solutionsforlowselfesteem.com/"&gt;&lt;b&gt;Solutions For Low Self Esteem&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;/b&gt; to banish low self esteem and loneliness forever.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4671943391293315270-4007961308888254280?l=lowselfesteemloneliness.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://lowselfesteemloneliness.blogspot.com/feeds/4007961308888254280/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://lowselfesteemloneliness.blogspot.com/2009/06/help-for-low-self-esteem-and-loneliness.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4671943391293315270/posts/default/4007961308888254280'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4671943391293315270/posts/default/4007961308888254280'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://lowselfesteemloneliness.blogspot.com/2009/06/help-for-low-self-esteem-and-loneliness.html' title='Help For Low Self Esteem And Loneliness'/><author><name>Pat</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/14049663657833245371</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_UziHFXQHoYE/SkJq2PAbtHI/AAAAAAAAABw/YwJUeK3aqK8/s72-c/overcomenegativity.jpg' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4671943391293315270.post-1582149538568980869</id><published>2009-06-19T10:29:00.000-07:00</published><updated>2009-06-30T08:30:01.111-07:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='self confidence'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='being rejected and low self esteem'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='self help'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='hurtful words and low self esteem'/><title type='text'>Being Rejected Can Cause Low Self Esteem</title><content type='html'>&lt;a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_UziHFXQHoYE/SkJq_ipY7dI/AAAAAAAAAB4/G62PnTSOWO4/s1600-h/negativethinking.jpg"&gt;&lt;img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 300px; height: 198px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_UziHFXQHoYE/SkJq_ipY7dI/AAAAAAAAAB4/G62PnTSOWO4/s320/negativethinking.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5350956947134279122" border="0" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.squidoo.com/BeingRejectedAndLowSelfEsteem"&gt;&lt;b&gt;Being rejected by others can cause low self esteem&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;/b&gt;.   No matter what the situation, when you are being rejected by others, it is always painful and it can affect your self worth, self confidence and self esteem.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Self esteem is simply our own perception and personal view of ourselves.    When our vision of ourselves is damaged from being rejected,  the result is low self esteem.  Once low self esteem is formed, it can affect every aspect of our lives.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The first step to take is to forgive the people for their unkindness and rejection of you, and begin to work to repair the damage they have done to your self esteem.  You must take corrective action immediately.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;When you start to correct your low self esteem, you will immediately start to feel better about yourself.  Just knowing that you are trying to do something to correct it, will raise your self confidence.  Be assured that you can reverse low self esteem and the pain of being rejected will also go away.  The key to improving your self esteem is to control the way you talk to yourself.  Negative self talk is the main reason for continued low self esteem.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Low self esteem, which is caused by being rejected, can be reversed.  It is just a matter of changing the way that you think about yourself. You must replace the negative impression you have of yourself with a positive impression. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The best program available to successfully improve your self esteem is &lt;a href="http://www.solutionsforlowselfesteem.com/"&gt;&lt;b&gt;Solutions For Low Self Esteem&lt;/b&gt;.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4671943391293315270-1582149538568980869?l=lowselfesteemloneliness.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://lowselfesteemloneliness.blogspot.com/feeds/1582149538568980869/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://lowselfesteemloneliness.blogspot.com/2009/06/being-rejected-can-cause-low-self.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4671943391293315270/posts/default/1582149538568980869'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4671943391293315270/posts/default/1582149538568980869'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://lowselfesteemloneliness.blogspot.com/2009/06/being-rejected-can-cause-low-self.html' title='Being Rejected Can Cause Low Self Esteem'/><author><name>Pat</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/14049663657833245371</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_UziHFXQHoYE/SkJq_ipY7dI/AAAAAAAAAB4/G62PnTSOWO4/s72-c/negativethinking.jpg' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry></feed>
